Flipside Christian Church

And we'll again welcome.

I'm glad you're here.

It's going to be a good day
as we go through the third part

of a four part series.

And this series is called,
Seeing the Unseen Hand of God

through the book of Ruth.

It's really a story of providence.

Things together for the good.

Those who love him.

It's a foreshadowing of Romans 828.

And we're going to get into all of that.

But before we do,
I just wanted to give you a,

snapshot, an idea of some,
some good things that are happening

in the context of this church,
given the fact that it is now full.

And I have the privilege

and the honor of coaching
with the varsity staff at the high school.

And I got,

I have the opportunity
on behalf of the church.

It's not part of of of the school
district, so.

So I didn't put them in a position to
approve or deny that to the team, though.

It's for the team. But I've started,

Friday afternoon, chapel

service for our varsity
football team now, of course.

Yeah.

We've, we've curated we've curated meals

that optimize energy and hydration.

Truly,
it's all, it's all it's all programed.

And then we do a chap.

I do a chapel service
for the guys who want to come.

It's there's nothing mandatory about it
at all.

It's just if you want to come,
this is what we're doing.

And so this Friday was our first one

because it was our opening season. And,

Ivins took care of all the meal,
and they paid for everything

and made it all and,
and and put together this beautiful meal

that we've planned for everybody.

And we didn't have every.

But nearly everyone on the varsity
roster came,

and, yeah.

Yeah.

And, and so it was a great time

to just kind of be together,
but then to open up the Bible,

and make some,

correlations between football and faith.

And for instance,

football is the ultimate team sport.

And we talked about it truly is.

And we say, you don't believe me?

I'm being serious right now.
You think I'm joking?

And we talked about how it's we over me
that the name on

the front of the jersey is more important
than the name on the back of the jersey.

And in order to be successful,
you have to put others ahead of yourself

and you have to submit and serve one

to the detriment of yourself oftentimes.

And that's exactly what Jesus did for us.

Philippians said, leaving heaven,

he took the form of a servant,
become obedient to death as a slave.

He put wi over me

and he served us not for his benefit,

but for that's what you understand
I'm saying.

And so there were three of those things
that we talked about from Scripture.

Open up the Bible.

And it was it was so beautiful
because then as the team gathered together

before the meal, after I get the chance
to pray over them, after our warm

ups on the field, and then they
start reciting to each other,

talking about in chapel service
to each other.

And so it's just a it's just a great
opportunity where we get to be like light

and be that witness
to our huddle, literally.

And so it's a great honor and a privilege
that we get to do that.

And I get that opportunity.

And so thank you, church,
for being a place where that happens.

And I know that there are other,

families who have decided
that they're going to jump in

and help do the meals and stuff,
but it really does have an impact.

And I'm excited to watch
what God does with some of our

young men,
the great young, great young men,

as they embrace faith.

And they're

with other players who don't know
Jesus yet,

but who are open to listening.

So anyway, it's a lot of fun, man.

It's a lot of fun.

So just keep that.

Keep that in prayer.

I'm not asking you to pray for,
winning season.

The of our championship would be awesome.

But just for the if, you know, for the

this chapel idea,
our coach has been very gracious

and give me permission to ask the boys
if they want to be a part.

To be a part?

And he's on board with that.

So it's been real fun.

The book of Ruth.

It's right at the beginning of the old,
like, Genesis.

Exodus of the next number,
your honor, for judges.

Ruth.

So we're eight books
into the Old Testament, the book of Ruth.

It's four chapters
long. We're in chapter three today.

We'll wrap up the book
next week in chapter four.

I want us to understand this.

All of the Bible

is the story of Jesus,

of of the father.

The Bible is a historical record,

but it's not just a historical record.

It is not, as some have heard,

biblically basic instructions
before leaving Earth.

That's not what it's about.

It's based

and the love of the father.

It's the story of God and his Messiah,

another word Redeemer,
the one who buys back that which is

owned by another, in this case,
the Redeemer.

Jesus by death on the cross.

Those of us who were owned

by sin and separation.

And we see that in the book of Ruth,
especially in chapter three and chapter

three of Ruth is a love story

between a man and a woman,

and more deeply,
a love story between the father.

It's also a beautiful revelation

of how God works in the world.

And we've talked about this
for the last two weeks

in the way of providence,
God's providential hand.

It's a foreshadowing of Romans 828,

for we know that God

together
for the good of those who love him

and who are called
according to his purpose.

We talked about this last week that
when we know that God works, providence

things together
for the good of those who love him,

then what that does is it

creates a great deal of confidence.

Because though things

might not go
the way I want them to go right now,

I know what the Bible says
and that right now,

somehow God supernaturally

working through the natural course
of things, works.

The natural course of things
supernaturally together for.

And so what that does bring

is, I believe that it creates
a great deal of confidence

and positive momentum.

And the proof that I believe that

the proof that I believe
in the providential hand of God

is that I'm content

if I don't believe,
and if God, when things in my mind

go wrong, I'm very discontent,

very upset, very frustrated.

Right? Right.

Because if God were for me,
how could he let?

But when I believe in the providential

hand of God.

I'm content

right now because somehow I don't see it.

I understand it can't explain somehow

God is going to work this together
for good.

But the caveat of that

is for the good of those who love him.

It's not a blanket
statement for everybody.

And the proof of our love for

the father,
as Jesus said in the Gospel of John,

is our obedience to the commands of God.

That's the proof.

We can't say we love God
if we don't obey him.

If you love me, you'll obey me, right?

And so when we quick to repent,

accepting the forgiveness he's
already offered

and relying on the grace of God

to give all that his grace would allow,

we live in obedience that way.

And for those of us
who have made that our decision

and our life, we have confidence that

all things together for good.

So I can be content right now.

I'm I have incredible confidence

and I have incredible momentum in my life.

You follow that's the book of Ruth
and we get to see it play it out

before us in the context of this
young lady named Ruth and this man

as for those who love God,

who trust the providential hand of God,

God now has a holy obligation

for you to work things together for good.

Did you realize that God

Himself

to fulfill His Word?

So when I love God
and I trust his providential hand,

God accepts a holy obligation

to work right now for my good.

He's obligated to it.

I hope you understand the force of that.

Not that he owes us anything,
but he's obligated himself

to fulfill what he said in his word,
and he will not deny it.

And so as we approach Ruth three

Ruth in my Bible, Ruth three.

Ruth two, I think it's the same in yours.

And in Ruth two, said Billy.

Check.

I said,

there's all kinds of things
I'm learning. No.

And so in Ruth two, what we're what we see

is Ruth just happened to stumble afar
upon.

She's a more abiding for Israel
with her mother in law, Naomi,

as she happens,

happens to come upon this field owned by
this man named Boaz.

Just happened.

For those who love God

and are called according to his purpose,
nothing just happens.

Yeah, it's the providence,

the providence of God.

And so let me just tell you, in my life
in 1990

came back from college,

and in seminary and,

I just happened to go
to the second service of our church,

and I just happened during that service,

the college Sunday school class.

And I was sitting in that class,
and it just happened to be in that class,

this young lady who quoted a Bible verse

that we were talking about
and I thought, oh, she knows her Bible.

That's awesome. Whatever.

And I just happened
to be invited to a all church picnic

at Mooney Grove Park.

Invites. Oh, yeah. Yeah.

Didn't want to go,

but it just happened to agree.

And I happened to be coerced into a church
softball game at that picnic.

There's nothing
more unathletic than church softball.

I happened to get coerced into

and I happened to be in short centerfield.

You know, and there happened to be
this same young lady

playing second base and.

No big deal.

Yeah.

I just happened to be coerced
by that same guy

to go to an all youth lock in junior
high through college.

That night.

Happened to run into that

same girl that was in the same school
class and played second base at the lock.

And who was working with the junior
high girls at our church. Wow.

And it just so happened

that the next day,
this girl and I went to a same college

Bible study at her house.

So happened that we started talking
about the Book of Lamentations,

and it just so happened

that she could hold a conversation with me
about the Book of Lamentations.

I don't know if any of you can know,

but this one could.

Yeah,

and it just so happened

that 33.

Yeah, we have three sons
and three grandsons, right?

It doesn't just happen.

Yeah.

Do you understand?

I'm saying it doesn't just happen.

It's the providential hand of God.

And so that's what we're running into
in Luke chapter Ruth chapter three.

Let's go to verse one.

Naomi, Ruth's mother in law, said to her,

my daughter, should I not

seek rest for you,
that it may be well with you?

There's all there's
so much in this chapter.

I'm going to take it real slow.

I almost verse by verse through this

when she says, my daughter,
should I not seek rest for you?

This has

this mother in
law's desire for her daughter in law

since since the moment
roof's husband died,

she tried surgically over it

years ago, in the country of Moab,

where Naomi and her husband Elimelech left

Ratha

because there was a famine
as the judgment of God, and went to Moab,

a place that should have never been
with their two sons.

And the two sons
married these two Moabite women,

which they weren't,
should have never done.

Those two sons died.

Elimelech, Naomi's husband, died.

You got these three widows in Moab,

and we talked to her daughters in law.

She says, ladies, please,
I beg you, go stay with you.

I'm going to go back to to Bethlehem.

You stay here, that you may find rest

with another husband.

And one of them says,
okay, I'll now never hear from her again.

I don't know

where you go.

I will go where you lodge, I will watch.

Your people will be my people.

Where you die,
I will die and be buried there.

Your God will be my God. And she go.
She comes back.

But from the moment
that that her husband died in Moab,

Naomi said, please, I want you to.

She says it again in chapter three.

My daughter, should I not seek rest?

She wants her daughter in law to find rest

in the context of a covenant marriage.

She wants

her to
find rest in the context of a godly man.

It's been her desire from the is.

I mean, honestly, parents, don't we?

If we could pick our kids spouses,
isn't this every parent's dream?

Yeah.

I mean, sometimes they get it right

and sometimes we just have to trust God.

But she gets the opportunity
like I'm done on your behalf.

I'm going to do what I can to orchestrate
this under the guidance of God.

But my desire for you is
because this is what marriage should be.

Marriage is designed between
a man and a woman who are loving God

together to be a place of rest and peace

and safety and comfort and provision

and joy and contentment and fulfillment.

Why? Because it's a picture

of Christ and His church.

Because the picture between Christ
and us is to be a relationship

that is full of rest and peace

and joy and protection and understand
this is what she's seeking for

her daughter.

And this is what honestly,
marriage is supposed to be for us.

As a picture of this relationship,
which questions church,

should I not see that it may be
well with you?

Look at verse two.

Is not Boaz our relative,
with whose young women you?

He is winnowing barley tonight
at the threshing floor.

So the first thing we learn about Boaz
personally

is that he's a relative of Naomi.

And because Ruth is Naomi's
daughter in law,

he's now a relative of Ruth. Okay,

bring to this, this, this relative.

What she's saying is, look,
I want you see, Naomi tells Ruth,

I want you to pursue this man, Boaz.

She's kind of setting stuff up, right?

I want you to pursue him.

She knows what a man of integrity he is.

She knows what a good like employee.

Sure, he like he's everything
that she wants for her daughter or not.

And she said, I want you to pursue him
not because

he's successful,
but because he's a relative.

Here's why this is important.

In Deuteronomy 25, verses
five, six and seven,

there's this Liveright law in place

that says,
if a woman is married to a Hebrew

and he dies, and his that her dead

husband has has brothers,
the next in line is responsible

to get this, redeem her,
and fulfill the obligations of

his son in the it her dead husband's name.

That was a law on the books
in Deuteronomy 25.

Why? Because God is very concerned
with the family

family line and with inheritance.

And so God sets up this law

very early in his people's orchestrates.

If a woman's husband dies
and he has a brother,

the brother is obligated by law

to be a redeemer.

He's a relative.

So that that family name can continue
so that family doesn't die out in Israel.

Because family is important to God,
still is.

And so that the and

that man and woman
is passed on to their children,

because God is very concerned about his
people's land and the inheritance.

And it passes on that generational
inheritance and generational security.

And so it's very important to God.

And so Naomi's saying, look,
we have one of these,

as he's a relative of ours.

Now, I'm going to come back to that
passage in Deuteronomy

25 in just a minute.

But just keep that in mind.

Naomi says, you were with all these women

that were,

that were,

in the field working.

And if you after work, this was the
this was the,

the welfare system in ancient Israel
that the, the, the farmers who owned land

as the harvest is, as the harvest would,
would start to be harvest the, the,

the workers were not allowed to
to harvest the edges

in the corners of the field

all through the field.

They were allowed
one time to go through the field

and pick all the grain
they could, any grain that was left

or any grain that fell on the ground,
they had to leave there

so that the orphans, the poor,
the widows could go through the field

and pick the grain on the edges,

in the corners and everything
that was left on the ground.

It was their welfare system, and it was

because it forced those

who had to be generous up to 20%

of what could be harvested
was left in the field, 20%.

So it forced those who had to be generous,

and it forced those
who didn't have to work for it.

Because it was protecting their dignity.

And did you know this,

that in cultures

where you have to work to eat, their life
span is much longer than in cultures

who retire and coast

much longer, so much value and hard work.

And so that was the system.

And she says, this guy, Boaz,
you've been working in his field gleaning,

see, he is

he is winnowing barley tonight
at the threshing floor.

So they would gather all these crop,
all this barley in this.

And there was the seed and

all this stuff around the seed,
the chaff that was good for nothing.

And to winnow it,
they would throw it up in the air

and let the breeze blow
that nasty stuff away.

And the seed,
which was heavier, would fall down.

And that's how they would separate
the wheat and the chaff.

And they did it at the threshing floor.

The threshing floor
was at the highest peak of whatever area

they're in, because at the highest peak
is where the wind goes.

Didn't stand.

So they throw it up in the air,
the wind's blowing,

it blows all the nasty away,
and the seed falls down.

So they're winnowing this at the threshing
floor now.

Oh, your Bibles.

Because, you know, in judges
six, it's the story of Gideon.

And the Bible says in judges six
that Gideon was threshing

the grain at the winepress.

The winepress is at the lowest
elevation. Why?

Because liquid runs downhill.

Squeeze the
grapes, it runs downhill to the lowest.

And so Gideon is at the lowest elevation,

threshing wheat where there's no wind,
just getting all nasty and cover.

Why was he being so dumb?

If you know

he was hired?

He was scared to death because there was
an enemy coming after him.

So when the angel shows up, because he.

Gideon's mighty warrior,

you know, kind of jerking his chain,
it's like I'm not a mighty warrior.

I'm a coward is like, right, so you're
going to do something great for God.

So, so this whole threshing floor or
a winnowing the strength, the threshold.

This is an important deal.
This is why they did it.

And so she says,
look, he's he's he's doing that.

He's there.

Watch what she says.

This is it for any of you who are single.

This is great dating advice right here.

Not seriously.
Now, now, don't go to Tinder.

Go to the Bible.
It'll tell you how to date.

All right, so I'm just saying.

All right, so pay attention.

Verse three.

She saw this. Naomi is so practical.

She's telling her daughter in law

to get a man.

I picked the man for you.

I'm gonna tell you how to get him now.

I did, I let a great Jewish mother.

Wash.

Therefore,

you know you've been working in the field.

Go take a shower,

wash, point yourself

and put on your cloak
and go down to the threshing floor.

But do not make yourself known to the man
until he is finished eating and drinking.

Let me just unpack this
now. Please, ladies, don't get offended.

This is the way.

This is just the way.

Like she's like, look, here's the deal.

You don't have to do any of this,
but I'm going to I'm gonna

some wisdom men.

Men are visual animals.

Yeah.

And how you present yourself to
them is important.

You're more than
welcome to come in from the field

and your hair like a rat's nest
and smell like a dockworker.

You're more than welcome.

But you would serve yourself well.

Take a shower, pretty yourself up.

We understand that, don't we?

Like guys?

I'm not being chauvinistic.
Don't be offended.

But you understand this, right?

Right.

Good gracious. Come on.

Look, just.

Just like you want
to put your best foot forward.

What she's saying,

what she says.

Don't make yourself known

to the man
until he's finished eating and drinking.

Now, this isn't just a man female,
a male female thing.

This is just how people.

If you

ever, like, come
home from work or like, all day something,

and you walk through the door and
whoever's there is just a little, little

and sometimes like, look, just don't,

I don't know, just stop.

Let me collect my thoughts for a moment.

Don't hit.

I come through the door.

Anybody you feel that way?

Like just slow down.

Have you ever heard the idea that, the way
to a man's heart is through stomach?

And so I was like, look, listen, I know
you got all this stuff in your mind.

Don't unload on the man.

He's worked
all season long this afternoon.

He is exhausted.

He is hungry.

Just let him have some space.

And it's not necessarily
male female thing.

It's just how some people

are. You married men or women

or some of you?

You like
when you wake up in the morning like,

oh, I have all these thoughts for the day.

Do you this, this, this, this, this,

you're married to someone is like,
can you just not say anything?

Can you just, I'm.

I'll be here later today.

I need to wake up.

I need to not be achy.

I need to have a couple cups of coffee.

I need to look at the new fit
to rattle stuff, like just

on my lion.

Okay.

And so this is so practical.

Naomi says, look,

you need to present yourself
really, really well,

but don't lead with everything
that's on your mind.

Just keep your mouth shut for a minute.

Let him eat and impress

men. Women, all of us.

You might have to just slow down,

let the other decompress a little bit.

Here's what we have to understand. I'm.

I'm going to download a bunch
of practical stuff for you right now.

Now, listen.

Wrong

decision at the wrong time is disaster.

Would you agree? Okay.

The wrong decision at the right
time is a mistake.

You get it?

Hey, listen.

Now, the right decision at the wrong time

will be unaccepted.

The goal is to make the right decision
at the right time.

Boaz was the right decision,

but she had to wait for the right time.

You follow? Yeah.

And you can only wait for the right time

if you trust the providential hand of God.

Because if you don't

push your agenda at your time, you need

to understand.

Yeah.

Trust in the providential hand of God
doesn't just make stuff better

for your life.

It makes stuff better
for everybody lives around you.

But when we're only.

That's only three verses.

But when it. Verse four.
When he lies down.

Observe the place where he lies.

Then go and uncover his feet and lie down.

And he'll tell you what to do.

Now he says, listen,

at some point this is a huge celebration.

All the harvest is in and
and when the all the harvest

was at night,
they would have this huge celebration

and all this grain.

It's all out in the open.

There's no warehouses back then.

It's all out in the open
and all this greenery piled up in a heap.

The men would sleep around the grain,

their heads next to the grain
and their feet pointed out.

So like spokes in a wheel,
it all sleep around all the men. Why?

To protect it.

You got thieves and marauders and animals.

And so they all slept around it.

And so what is their going to eat?

He's going to drink
like he's going to be relaxed,

and then they're going to go to sleep
as they normally do.

When that happens,
she says, watch where he lies. Why?

Because you don't want to approach
the wrong person.

Men, women.

You're single.

You're approaching the right ones
because there's some yuks out there

you don't want to approach.

Be very eyes wide open. Then

going uncover uncovers feet and lie down
and he will tell you what to do.

So they're sleeping outside

and she says, go lie down at his feet.

He'll be sound asleep.

Why does she say, uncover his feet?

Think they're sleeping outside?

It's going to get cold.

Lie down at his feet and uncovers
feet. Why?

What happens in the middle of the night
when your feet are cold?

You wake up right?

Covers feet.

And guess who's going to be there?

You see this?

So why wise woman?

She's like a puppet man.

Observer.

Please realize. Go on. Covers.
Don't lie down.

He'll tell you what to do.

Remember I said the Bible

is the story about Jesus.

Understand?

Lie at his feet.

He'll tell you what to do.

Lie at the feet of the master.

And the master to. Do

you understand?

Submit yourself to the feet of the master.

He'll tell you what to do.

That's what this is about.

Tells you what to do.

Do all that he says.

She reply at verse five

to Naomi.

I'll do exactly what you said.

This whole

chapter three, please understand this.

The here's the big idea

that your setbacks,

providence meet,
your setbacks can be God's set ups.

And that's what's going on here.

Rather than roof looking at everything
that's going on saying

I just one setback after another.

Have you ever been there

after another?

I can't catch a break.

Providence means those setbacks.

They could be God's setups

and that's what's happening.

And so stay at his feet.

He'll tell you what to do.

And when he tells you
what to do, do all that he says.

Do all that he says. Why?

Because he's trustworthy.

I'm going to submit myself to this, to him

because I know I can trust him.

Listen, you're not going to trust
the trustworthiness of God if

firmly set in your mind and heart.

When I trust the providential hand of God.

I can believe that is trustworthy.

And so what he says to do,

I want to.

Verse six.

So she went down to the threshing floor
and did

just as her mother
in law had commanded her.

And when Boaz had eaten and drunk
it doesn't say, and was drunk.

I just want to make that clear.

And his heart was Mary.

He went to lie down at grain, remember,
like the spokes of the wheel

we talked about.
That's what's going on. That's it.

That's what this looks like.

Then she came
softly and then covered his feet.

At midnight.

The man was startled. Why did he wake up?

His toes are cold.

It's like, what the heck happened?

And he turned over and

his feet.

So it's dark.

It's nighttime, it's cold.

She kind of sneaks in and he wakes up
and it startles him

because women weren't supposed to be
a part of this thing was too dangerous.

They weren't supposed to be a part
like any this is going on.

And he said, who are you?

Remember, there's no light.

It's not a factor.

You don't have a flashlight.

Like, who are you?

She answered, I am Ruth, your servant.

Spread your wings over your servant, for
you are a redeemer.

Literally spread your garment over me.

Here's what she's saying.

Just to have a man's

a person's garment over you
was there covering

it was placing their authority over you
as a protection.

It was placing their identity over you.

This is a marriage proposal,

she said, I want to
I want you to cover me with your covering.

If your authority, with your

identity,
I want you to accept me as your own.

That's what she's saying.

She's proposing marriage to him.

This is why Naomi said,
make sure you get the right one.

For your a redeemer.

That word
redeemer is a Hebrew word called go.

Well, and this is a really important.

It's not Greek, it's Hebrew.

The redeemer is called goel.

And what it literally means
is a kinsman redeemer.

Now we know what kinfolk are, right?

We're from the Ranchos.

So? So a a relative who was.

But it's someone close to us
who chooses to buy

us back from what owns us.

Okay,
so what owned Ruth right now was despair.

And being a widow and poverty.

And so she was seeking a go. Well,

buy her at

in essence, pay the dowry,
if you will, to become his bride

to cover over her, his being,

his person, his identity, his family.

That's what that's
what she means when you are a redeemer.

Now, here's the thing.

This kinsman redeemer.

Deuteronomy 25.

If you read story

25, verses five through nine,
you'll see this whole thing play out,

that when a someone needs to be redeemed,

in this case,
a widow would go to their kinsman redeemer

and say,
you are my kinsman Redeemer by law,

you to redeem me as your own.

The kinsman Redeemer
could make one of two decisions.

He can say, yes, I accept you, and I will.

Or he could deny

he didn't have to accept her.

It was his choice.

And which

is? If he decided

not to redeem
the one asking to be redeemed,

they would go to the city gate
where the elders all sat and did business,

and she would say, I, he's my kinsman
redeemer, but he has rejected me.

It's all in the Bible.

They would take off his shoe and give it,

and he would always be known
as the man who lost his shoe.

And then she would spit in his face

like crazy.

And then she was free to go see

if a nut next in line would redeem her.

That's what she's referring to here.

But my own a redeemer.

So Boaz must choose to redeem her.

Who is Boaz?

A picture of in the book of Ruth. Jesus,

our Redeemer.

Who's to redeem us?

Not just keep that in mind
as we go through this.

But verse was I on oh verse ten here.

And he said, May
you be blessed by the Lord, my daughter,

you have made this last kindness greater
than the first, and that you have not gone

after young men, whether poor or look

like there's something about you.

He he was he was probably in his 50s.

She's probably in her late 20s,
maybe 30, like, and he's saying

you're such a woman of quality because
you're not chasing these young bucks.

You're not just looking at the external

like you want the laws and the ways of God

to drive your life,
and you're submitting yourself

to the ways of God
rather than just chasing these young,

he said.

There's there's a quality about you
that is so profoundly

godly.

So let me just

let me just say this again

to you who are single.

Last year before we had the privilege
of hiring Michael as our youth pastor,

I got to do the teaching in our junior
high and high school group on a midweek,

midweek services.

And I told my son, I'm
I'm going to tell you,

I'm going to tell you
how to get the right person to marry.

Three things you look for the moment

I said that all the girls are like.

The boys are like, are you kidding me?

Let me tell you. Here it is.

There's three things
that have to be in place.

The first one is they got to be fun.

They have to

be someone you can have fun with,

right? The same stuff.

Or at least act like you
like the same stuff,

right?

Like if
if you don't like being around someone,

a relationship is going to be terrible.

You can do it.
There's going to be terrible.

So you got to be fun and there's got to be
a physical thing to it.

There's got to be like.

There does a million.

No. And listen, ladies,
you're so much more virtuous than us.

Guys like you can
you can see something inside of us.

We initially we

we don't see what's on

as you we're just visual.

And so there's got to be like, oh, like
physically there's something between us.

There's got to be those.

Now, you can have a

relationship in a marriage without those,
but it's going to be tough.

But most people stop with those two, man.

They're fun and they're real.

I think this is right.

And they missed the third.

They all start
with if fun, physical and faith.

Yeah I know what I did.

You missed it.

That's all right.

There's got to be the faith component.

And if there's not the faith component
though, they're fun.

And the physical stuff is there.

If the faith component isn't there.

It's going to be work.

It'll be work.

Even with the faith component,
it'll be disastrous without it.

Yeah.

Listen, single people

becomes missionary marriage.

And when you settle, boy, they're fun
and they're hot.

And that's where you're looking.

You're asking for trouble.

You understand that?

And that's why back in 1990,

when I can have a young lady

about the Book of Lamentations.

I don't know many of you hear that.

I get it at this point in your life.

And I did with this little gal who was 20.

OS she's in.

Ruth is this godly woman of virtue.

She's Proverbs 31.

Before Proverbs 31 was written,

and the way he got a Proverbs 31 woman

because he was a Boaz type of man.

So men, you want a Proverbs 31

woman be a Boaz type, a man.

Women don't settle for someone

who's not a Boaz type of guy.

He says you want

the things of God to rule your life
more than

physical.

All this external stuff,
he said, you are so beautiful.

And watch what he says.

And now, my daughter, verse 11, do not
fear, I will do for you all that you ask.

For all my fellow townsmen
know that you are a worthy woman,

like you're virtuous,

profoundly evident
to everybody around you.

Everybody knows.

And now it is true that I am a redeemer,
yet there is a Redeemer nearer

than I remain tonight
and in the morning, if he will redeem you.

Good. Let him do it.

But if he's not willing to redeem you,
then as the Lord lives, I

lie down until morning.

Here's what he's saying.

He's saying,
I don't want you to worry anymore.

You've asked me.

You've asked me to redeem you.

You've asked me to accept you as my own.

I will do all that you ask.

What he's saying is this.

You have any effect on my redeeming you?

I will do all the work.

Do you hear that?

Do you hear Jesus in that?

This is the story of Christ.

And he's saying you can do nothing to work
your own redemption.

I will do it all.

Just come to me,
lay at my feet and make the request.

I will do all the work.

Religion says, work your way to God.

Jesus says, I am going to come to you.

I will do the work.

That's the story that's going on here.

And he says,

he says there is someone

that's nearer to you than I am.

And so the way this whole thing worked,

the brother,
the man who died the next in line in

the family would have the first
right of refusal, if you will.

And so Boaz is somewhere down here.

You said there's one who is closer.

And if he will redeem you, so be it.

But if not

fully, and

in my mind, this is where my mind goes
as I read that

there's

in our world,

when we're just coming into
this realization that there is a God

and we're not right with him
and want to get right with him.

The first, the first in that
wrong of trying to is our own behavior.

We try to be good.

It's called religion,
and it's so close to every person

because we all know at some level
that we've messed stuff up.

And we all know at some level we have to
be right with we got to be better.

And so we try this.

The self effort
to work our self into worthy

is one who is closer,
more like like you go to first.

Can it redeem, you know.

And because it can't

Jesus says, I will.

Do you understand what I'm saying?

If it were able to redeem you,

if what the Bible says,
if the Lord could save you, it would.

It can't.

The only thing it can do is tell you
that it cannot save you.

So there has to be another go.

Well, another kinsman Redeemer
who is Christ, who is willing to.

That's Boaz.

Remain tonight and in the morning,
if you will redeem it.

Good. Let him do it.

If he's not willing to redeem
you as not as Lord, as I will redeem you.

Lie down until the morning.

Now watch this. Verse 14.

So she lie at his feet until the morning,
but arose before

one could recognize another.

And she
and he said, let it not be known that the

the threshing floor.

And he said, bring the garment,
that outer coat,

yet you were wearing, and hold it out.

So she held it out, and he measured out
six measures of barley and put it on her.

Then she went into the city.

Here's what he's doing.

He's protecting her and providing her,
because that's what masculinity does.

He says, let me stay here tonight.

Why? Because it's midnight.

It's the darkest time. It's
the coldest time.

It's the most perilous time
to be out on your own.

Especially as a young lady
in the wilderness.

It's unsafe for you to go
wander away from her right now.

Just stay here.

I want to protect you.
We don't know who's out there.

We know the animals.

Just stay here. I need to protect you.

As the sun's
coming up before anybody can clearly see.

Then I want you to go wife. Because I

not only need to protect your person,
I need to protect your reputation.

Nothing has gone on.

It's not a sexual thing at all.

But you know what people are like.

They make up what they don't know.

And so if they see you spreading room.

And I need to protect your reputation.

And so he's protecting her.

But he sends her away
with all this grain. Why?

Because he's providing for her.

And that's what a
that's what biblical masculinity is.

Protect and provide
those God has given to us.

And if you're a husband,
because I'm a husband, our job is to

our wife and our family
and to provide for them.

It's our job.

And the man who will not be the forerunner

of protection and provision
has something broken in his soul.

This is our job.

And ladies moms, if you have sons,
your sons must learn

and they'll try all kinds of ways
to step into this, to grow into the system

God put in them innately.

And they'll get it wrong a lot,
and they'll try to blow up a whole bunch.

Let them do that, put them in positions
of responsibility and protection

and provision, whatever they're capable
because they need to grow into.

This is how God hardwired them.

Hardwired. Yeah.

And that's what he's doing.

He's such a good man.

Then she went into the city, verse 16.

And when she came to her mother in law,
she said, how did you fare, my daughter?

Then she told her all that
the man had done for her, saying,

these six measures of barley
he gave to me.

For he said, you must not go back
empty handed to your mother.

But you married guys,

if you're
married, you got a mother in law.

You better be good to her.

Do you understand?

You get this.

You better be extra good. Listen.

Especially
if she's a single mother in law.

We all somebody.

You don't marry, the person
you marry the family.

Some of you have married
a beautiful bride.

And you got a mother in law
that came along.

You better be real good to her,

you understand?

And she's your responsibility now.

She's single.

If she still has a husband, great.

You still in this?

And thoughtfulness.

It's going to be real hard
for some of you. For me?

Easy.

I got the best mother in law in the world.

Easy.

I know this has been recorded

since this kid.

Let me wrap up.

Let me wrap up above. This

stuff is going to get me in trouble.

I need to stick to the Bible.

Verse 18 she replied,
This is Naomi saying to Ruth, wait,

my daughter,
until you learn how the matter turns out,

for the man will not rest,

but we'll settle the matter today.

Can you imagine for Ruth? She's young.

She's so excited.

She got in attention to her like it's
everything that she.

She's new to faith. It's
everything that she's like.

Oh, can you just imagine the conversation
that happened with her mother on

what do We do? We think,
what do you think's going to say?

When is she going to when is these going
to call me and text me yet?

I don't know.

Can I post something.
Will you read something into it?

Like like when do you think it's
going to be. Do you think that's a read?

Friends.

I told my friends like,

right.

It's like, oh.

And then was like, look, slow down slow.

Now wait.

Trust the providential hand of God.

Your timing.

Don't force your agenda.

God's working in this together for good.

You've loved him.

You've proved it.

You're following him.

Just wait.

Wait.

Her words are

he will not rest.

He will do all.

And he will settle the matter.

Wait.

She says you've asked
to be a part of his family,

and he has accepted you as his own.

Here's
the beautiful thing about this whole go

well situated kinsman redeemer
I shared with you Deuteronomy 25

the go.

The consumer dream
has the right of refusal.

Boaz didn't have to accept her,

but as a picture of Christ,

when we at the feet of the master

say, you are my Redeemer,
will you accept me?

John 637 I think we have that slide.

Jesus says,

all that the father gives
me will come to me,

and the one who comes to me,
I will by no means cast out.

He is our kinsman redeemer.

And when we come to ask,
will you redeem me?

He says, absolutely.

That's
why I came to Earth in the first place.

I will by no means cast you aside.

You can do nothing
to affect your redemption.

All you do is ask.

Then you let the work that I've done,

you follow me.

Ruth cleaned herself up
and made her look good.

We don't have to do that to God.

We don't have to do that for Jesus.

We come with

raggedy hair and stinky bodies
fresh off the field.

We say, well, you redeem me.

He says, you bet.

That's the message of the cross.

And so I want to leave you three questions

there.

Real simple questions.

Will you admit

that you need to be redeemed?

What happened in Ruth's life?

Had she not first acknowledge
that she needed redemption?

She had to realize
the state of her own life.

She had to realize she needed redemption.

Do you follow?

Have you admitted
that you need redemption?

And will you ask Jesus

and accept Jesus to be your Redeemer?

To not try to affect yourself
by how you live, by how good you are, by

how religious you are to accept the work
that he's done on the cross

and whatever he says to do.

Now you believe is trustworthy.

Real simple questions.

Profound ramifications of your answer.

So for those who love God

and trust is providentially

your setbacks will become God's setups.

He's obligated himself to it and to you

to understand.

Ruth, he's a beautiful chapter.

So as we wrap this up,

I'm going to encourage

read chapter three and read chapter four.

We're going to wrap up this series
next week.

But in the conclusion of this chapter,

we're going to remember our Redeemer.

And Jesus gave us elements to do that.

This is for the.

This is for the ones who have said,

I admit I need a redeemer.

I admit
I need to be brought back from sin.

Jesus, I accept the work you've done

and this is my

confession that I remember you must you.

This is reserved

for the redeemed by the body

and the blood of Jesus.

I'm less concerned

about this and more concerned about

your soul.

And so,

before we take this,
I want to give you an opportunity

to ask the Redeemer to redeem you

so that we can celebrate this

as a community of the redeemed.

Pray with me, father.

Thank you that you love us.

Thank you that you loved us so much
that you gave your son

to be the sacrifice for our sin

and to be our Redeemer.

Hear the hearts of those now

who are coming into line and fellowship
with you

by faith.

This moment.

It's a real simple decision,
but it is incredibly costly

because it will cost you submission.

To come before

God and say, God,
I admit that I've broken your law

and I need to be redeemed from sin.

Jesus, I accept what you've done.

The work of redemption.

I ask you to adopt me into your family.

Thank you

that you've secured my redemption
and bought me back.

I accept it.

And now I sit at your feet.

You are the master.

What you say I will do.

You because you're trustworthy.

In your name I pray.

Amen, Amen, Amen.

So redeemed.

We remember.

Jesus.

That on the night
that Jesus was handed over into the hands

of the men who would crucify him,
he shared a meal with his disciples.

And he lifted up the bread
during that meal.

And he gave thanks,
and he broke the bread.

He said, this is my body given for you.

Do this and remember me

and my redemption.

And in a very similar way, the Bible says,
he took the cup,

and he lifted up to heaven.

He gave thanks and said,
this cup is the new covenant in my blood,

shed for you,
for the forgiveness of your sin,

that you may be redeemed

every time you take this

old community.

Remember him.

God is a good God. So.

And His word is a good word.

This week, chapter three and chapter four,

you understand

trust the providential hand of God.

Though you can't see it, you can trust it,

and you can trust it because he loves you.

Let's sing.